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Autism, Bedtime and Frustration

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH BEDTIME FRUSTRATIONS?

Last night for the first time in almost over a year, Michael would not settle in for bedtime. He was upset and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with him.

I tucked him into bed and he popped back out. I thought well maybe he has to go to the bathroom again? He was JUST there, but we’ll try again… tucked him back in again. He popped back out again after pulling all his covers off the bed next.

After remaking his bed, I brought him out to the living room. He was crying, was upset. I sat in the rocking chair with him and rocked him. I gave him tight hugs and stroked his head… but I knew he was still ‘off”. There was still something that was bugging him.

So I turned the TV on and found his favorite show – Harold And The Purple Crayon… it has always seemed to calm him in those moments of intense frustration for him. At this point he asked for a peanut butter sandwich.

I got him the sandwich and put a blanket over top of him. He watched about 20 min of Harold and finished his sandwich. That finally seemed to calm him, so I tucked him back into bed. So instead of a 9:00 pm bedtime – it was after 11 pm by this time…

Sometimes that’s just how the shoe fits. I’m not sure what set him off last nite, but he had an awful nite.  And as a mom – I hate the fact that he can’t communicate and tell me what’s wrong and what he needs. I play the guessing game and I don’t like that.

It breaks my heart when I see him whimpering, his face screwed up and tears in his eyes and can see his frustration – and I can’t help him. I can’t break the barrier that’s there.

That’s the hardest part of being his mom – the helplessness I feel…